"Nobody would choose to live without friends even if he had all the other good things of life." Aristotle
, 384-322 b.C., Greek philosopher
I had gone to one of my friends' baby shower, it took place in a Mexican restaurant and was a girls night out. So dads were at home taking care of the kids. All the ladies, except the pregnant one, were strangers to me. It was awkward at first, but eventually, we all became comfortable around each other and had a good time talking about our husbands, life after marriage, kids etc....one girl brought her friend to the restaurant and introduced her to all of us, said she is a very close friend of hers from school. Both of them were lucky enough to get married to NRIs working in the Bay Area. Looking at them talking about old days and laughing made me miss my friend who is married now and is in Bangalore.
Now its not that I dont have any friends here and am a loner. I have lots of good friends, infact, one of them is from my high school . I can just pick up the phone or go and meet them, talk to them about anything and everything under the sun. I am sure my Bangalore friend would have gone on with her life, making more friends. But we had the happiest days of our lives and the things I shared with her cannot be shared with anybody else (pls, iam NOT talking about lesbian love)
All this makes me think.....right from the day we started walking, we have been (are still being) introduced to lots of people, of different age, and gender. Why then, are we close with just 1 or 2?
I had a dream yesterday about me and my hubby fighting over something I cant remember, I couldn't sleep after that....now its not that we don't fight at all (argue, let's use a polished word), we fight all the time, but....DO WE HAVE TO FIGHT IN MY DREAM TOO??? It so happened that yesterday afternoon, I usually switch to see what is on SUN TV after my kid's cartoons get over on TV. There was this mega serial (dont ask me the name) going on at that time, wife's trying to spoil her husband's sister's marriage, and her husband found out about it, both of them were fighting and he slapped her. I switched off the TV and went on with my day's work, but what made me dream about it that same night?!!?
Before I got married, I used to go out with my friends and watch some random movie, and if we dint like the movie, we would just walk out. It all changed after my hubby came into my life. He has the knack of picking up really good movies. Infact, the only 2 things I let him decide without asking me are movies and restaurants(he, like me, loves eating yummy foods). He does lots of research, reads reviews from movie sites, picks up Oscar nominated movies etc. We had movie nights at home everyday, and almost 90% of the movies that we watched were really good. It all varied from comedy, action, romance, drama, movies from a foreign category......Now with a hyper active kid who sleeps everyday at 11/12 every night, there is just no time for us to watch any movies together. So I am back to square one. I watch movies when my kid takes his afternoon nap. One such day, I watched a Tamil horror movie, Sivi with my friend who had come home to see me. We watched it on the desktop, reduced the volume and tried to make the movie less scary, but I still had a horrible dream that night. The other day, I was watching Taare Zameen Par, a good Hindi movie about a boy with dyslexia. It made me so emotional that I held my son close to me all day. The list of movies and the effects that it had on me are endless. There are movies that give you lots of information (some of them are false), increases your awareness, makes you laugh, makes you cry, makes you scared........They are not just for entertainment. They have become a part of our life.
My husband woke up in the morning, took his coffee cup and said as a matter of factly "Do you realize this is the first time after we got engaged, that both of us are together this Valentine's Day??" True, we got married in June 2004 but we got engaged in January. I was in India and he was here. 2nd yr, we were married, of course, but he was off to New York and we were left to celebrate our valentine's day alone. 3rd yr, I was off to India with our kid and he was stuck with work. 4th yr, he was off to Japan for another office trip. This time, there is no India trip, no overseas office trip.......am I looking forward to it....Is it that special a day??? Yes, I am very much looking forward to it....Coz to me, this day is not just celebrated with my hubby (that's what I call him).....I want to celebrate it with my sweet son and my dearest mom too. I have a special place in my heart for them, I think about them all the time......a mother's love, a husband's love and a son's love are all priceless treasures for me....words are not enough to express my love for them, but let me give it a try....
My son......I love you my son, you are the light of my life!
My mom...Thank you for being the one person I could trust, am so proud to claim you as my mom
My hubby...You are my lover, my life, my friend, my world.
"Nobody would choose to live without friends even if he had all the other good things of life."
